Online Dates: Why Do The Wrong Men Contact Me Online?

Posté le 13 avril, 2022 / dans la catégorie : Conseils

Facebook0Tweet0Pin0LinkedIn0Email0   Online Dates – What to Do When the Wrong Men Contact You Disappointing Online Dates – How to See the Positive Side of the Wrong Men Contacting You As a dating coach for women, I understand how aggravating online dating can be. Many of my clients complain how men don’t read (by the way, neither do some women) because if they did, the wrong men would not contact them. So, the struggle begins because who wants attention from the wrong men? Who are the wrong men? They are too old, too young, the wrong ethnic background , not enough college, not divorced yet, not enough hair, not enough height, not enough income, etc. You get the picture and maybe you feel the exact same way. What are you supposed to do about all these guys and how do you stop them from contacting you? You might think I’m crazy, but before you click away, please consider the basic logic of my recommendation for a moment. When men contact you for online dates, it’s a compliment   When a man contacts you, he finds you attractive and he appreciates you as a woman. Now, you might not be interested in him, and that is perfectly OK. But, please don’t deny the compliment because that hurts only one person – YOU! I advise my dating coaching clients to turn this around to recognize the compliment. Then before deleting his email, say “Thank you for appreciating me” in your mind. Think about it – how will you feel if you start this practice? Doing this will boost your confidence and self esteem. Seeing emails from “the wrong men” from a positive light can make you feel more desirable and attractive. You absolutely cannot lose – there is only upside to following such advice. One of my dating coaching clients saw a huge uptick in online dates as a result of this shift in attitude. She became more magnetic and that translated to better quality men contacting her. What’s the downside of trying to keep the wrong men away? Women try a number of approaches to keep the wrong men from contacting them and it unfortunately backfires. Some put it in their profile with comments like “no couch potatoes, no men from more than 50 miles, no bald guys, etc” What’s wrong with doing this? Men read this as criticism, even if they are not the men you are trying to ward off. Since most men choose women who make them feel good, you have ruined your chances. Boom, you shut him down and he clicks off to find a woman who isn’t critical in her profile and seems easier to please. Of course you are entitled to date whoever you want. I’m just suggesting you don’t spell out the men you don’t want in your profile if you want to attract decent guys. What’s the best way to handle contact from the wrong men? Like I advised above, simply say “thank you” to yourself before deleting their emails or winks/flirts. That’s it. You don’t need to respond or engage with these men. Just realize they did take the time to contact you and it showed their appreciation for you. In addition, this technique can  help you deal with the fact that many men won’t respond to your email contact either. Not every man will be open to you. When you are easier on the guys you don’t like, you will also take the rejection more in stride. That helps a lot when you are looking for online dates. Take in the compliment and boost your ego. You will meet plenty of men who aren’t right and you won’t be right for plenty of men. That doesn’t mean you can’t find love online. Please try to relax and let the stuff that doesn’t matter roll off your back. That’s the best way to keep a positive outlook, continue to seek online dates and find the love you dream of. More from my site: Online Dating Tips for Women: Can I Lie about My Age on…Why Is He Still On The Dating Website?Understanding Men – How to Weed Out the Wrong Guys

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